Hey Mama,
Breastfeeding can feel overwhelming—especially when advice from trusted professionals makes you doubt your instincts. While many midwives and doctors are incredibly supportive, the truth is that their breastfeeding knowledge can vary greatly.
Did you know that most midwives receive only basic breastfeeding training, and doctors even less? That means even well-intentioned advice can sometimes make breastfeeding harder instead of easier.
To help you navigate misleading information, here are 9 signs that your doctor, midwife—or even a lactation counselor—might not have the expertise to truly support your breastfeeding journey.
1. They Hand Out Formula Samples
Those “free” formula samples at hospitals or clinics? They’re not gifts—they’re marketing. Many healthcare providers receive sponsorships from formula companies. If your doctor or midwife recommends a specific brand, it’s often because of these partnerships—not because it’s what’s best for you and your baby. Breastfeeding and formula feeding are not interchangeable.
2. They Claim Formula and Breast Milk Are the Same
Breast milk is a living substance, packed with antibodies, enzymes, and stem cells that formula simply cannot replicate. Formula is a alternative when breastfeeding isn’t possible, but calling them “equal” ignores the unique, irreplaceable benefits of breast milk.
3. They Say Immediate Skin-to-Skin and Breastfeeding Aren’t Important
The first hour after birth—often called the Golden Hour—is crucial for establishing breastfeeding. Nursing during this time helps trigger your milk supply and strengthens bonding. If your provider suggests waiting or prioritizes other procedures over breastfeeding, know that initiating breastfeeding within the first hour is incredibly beneficial.
4. They Insist Nipple Confusion Isn’t Real
Babies suck differently at the breast than they do on a bottle. Introducing a bottle (at any time) can cause difficulty with latching, leading to stress for both mom and baby. If a provider dismisses nipple confusion but also encourages bottle use from the start, their advice contradicts best breastfeeding practices.
5. They Discourage Nursing to Sleep
Breastfeeding to sleep is biologically normal. Your milk contains the main natural source of melatonin, which helps your baby relax and drift off peacefully. If someone tells you that nursing to sleep is a “bad habit,” remember that it’s actually one of the greatest benefits of breastfeeding—it’s designed to comfort and nourish your baby at the same time. The same goes for comfort nursing—your breast is the original pacifier your breast is the original pacifier (without the disadvantages of an artificial soother)!
6. They Say It’s Okay to Be Separated from Your Sick or Premature Baby
For sick or premature babies, breast milk is even more vital—it provides essential immune protection and nutrients that support healing. Hospitals should help facilitate skin-to-skin contact and breastfeeding, not discourage it. If you’re being told that it’s not important, advocate for your right to stay with and nurse your baby.
7. They Tell You to Stop Breastfeeding Due to Illness or Medication
Most common illnesses and medications are safe during breastfeeding. If your doctor suggests weaning without researching alternatives, ask them to check a reliable source first. In many cases, continuing to breastfeed provides comfort and immunity for your baby—even when you’re sick.
8. They Say Breast Milk Loses Its Value After 6 Months
This is a myth! Breast milk adapts to your baby’s needs at every stage. Did you know that at 2 years old, breast milk contains just as many antibodies as colostrum? Saying it’s “just water” after a certain age is simply not true. Breastfeeding continues to provide nutrition, immune support, and comfort for as long as your child needs it. Your child will naturally wean when they are truly ready.
9. They Don’t Refer You to a Specialist for Breastfeeding Problems
Breastfeeding challenges are common but solvable with the right support. If your doctor or midwife doesn’t refer you to a breastfeeding counselor or specialist but instead suggests formula or tells you to just “give up,” they’re not giving you the help you deserve.
Why This Matters for You
As a mom, you’re already juggling so much—and bad advice can make things even harder. That’s why I encourage every mom to prepare during pregnancy by learning the basics of breastfeeding. With the right knowledge, you can confidently filter out advice that doesn’t align with your goals.
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You are the best mama for your baby. Trust yourself! With the right knowledge, you can confidently navigate any advice that doesn’t align with your goals.